Get to know the person you were created to be. Learn the best of you and the worst of you. Celebrate the gifts you have. All of this will help you to relate to others better, especially your family.
Learn more about the Enneagram here. A good, basic book about the Enneagram is The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. We have two copies of this book available for check-out in the church library.